Large language models (LLMs) are increasingly integrated into users’ daily lives, leading to a growing demand for personalized outputs.Previous work focuses on leveraging a user’s own history, overlooking inter-user differences that are crucial for effective personalization.While recent work has attempted to model such differences, the reliance on language-based prompts often hampers the effective extraction of meaningful distinctions.To address these issues, we propose Difference-aware Embedding-based Personalization (DEP), a framework that models inter-user differences in the latent space instead of relying on language prompts. DEP constructs soft prompts by contrasting a user’s embedding with those of peers who engaged with similar content, highlighting relative behavioral signals.A sparse autoencoder then filters and compresses both user-specific and difference-aware embeddings, preserving only task-relevant features before injecting them into a frozen LLM.Experiments on personalized review generation show that DEP consistently outperforms baseline methods across multiple metrics.Our code is available at https://github.com/SnowCharmQ/DEP.

Personalizing Large Language Models (LLMs) has become a critical step in facilitating their widespread application to enhance individual life experiences. In pursuit of personalization, distilling key preference information from an individual’s historical data as instructional preference context to customize LLM generation has emerged as a promising direction. However, these methods face a fundamental limitation by overlooking the inter-user comparative analysis, which is essential for identifying the inter-user differences that truly shape preferences. To address this limitation, we propose Difference-aware Personalization Learning (DPL), a novel approach that emphasizes extracting inter-user differences to enhance LLM personalization. DPL strategically selects representative users for comparison and establishes a structured standard to extract meaningful, task-relevant differences for customizing LLM generation. Extensive experiments on real-world datasets demonstrate that DPL significantly enhances LLM personalization. We release our code at https://github.com/SnowCharmQ/DPL.